The Adventures of Julie and Bella 2025

Are you holding a grudge? About?

Am I holding a grudge? I wouldn’t say it’s a grudge, but I can’t seem to forgive my former best friend. Am I justified? You be the judge…

For over 20 years, we were inseparable. We laughed together, cried together, and even dated at times. We weren’t just friends; we were each other’s go-to person, the ones who knew each other’s secrets and dreams. He’d often tell me he loved me, and I believed him, with all my heart.

Then, last August, my world was turned upside down. It started with a simple phone call from my mom. “Did you see that ‘J’ got married?” she asked. I was stunned. “What?” I replied, thinking she must have misunderstood something. She insisted it was on Facebook. I hung up and immediately logged in, expecting to find some meme or a joke. But within seconds, my heart sank. It wasn’t a joke. It was real. He had gotten married, and I had no idea.

This wasn’t a spontaneous decision or a quick courthouse ceremony. This was a planned wedding, with guests, and I—the person he called his best friend—wasn’t even aware. He hid it from me, kept it a secret, and didn’t even think I deserved to know. He lied to my face, pretending nothing was happening, all while planning one of the biggest moments of his life.

I was crushed. Hurt doesn’t even begin to describe how I felt. And one thing I’ve always believed in is honesty. I can’t stand being lied to, especially by someone I trusted so deeply. I tried to move on, to push the pain aside, but it lingers. The betrayal cuts too deep, and I’m still struggling to forgive him.

So, am I holding a grudge, or am I justified in feeling this way? Is it wrong to expect honesty and transparency from someone you’ve shared so much with? You tell me…